“I’ve never been in a healthy relationship—have you?”
The man sitting across from me crossed his legs and sat back comfortably in the coffeehouse chair.
Caught a little off guard, I paused. Had I ever been in a healthy relationship? What even qualifies as “healthy,” other than lack of abuse? Slowly I shook my head, aware that he was waiting for an answer, and the realization sunk in: maybe I had never been in a totally healthy relationship.
Read MoreWhen we got back to his house, he invited me inside. I agreed, because I was happy that we were getting along well and I wanted that to continue. He said he had thought at the start of the date that I didn’t like him. I was surprised by that, since I had been determined to like him since we had first started talking.
Read MoreAfter Chad, I jumped back on online dating sites within a month. Looking back, it was too fast, but I was lonely and missed the happy brain chemicals. I convinced myself I was ready again. It was the end of May 2020, and as much of the world stayed in some form of quarantine, America began to ease its door open and peeeeek through the crack like that one kid who can’t wait for Christmas morning. Meanwhile, COVID numbers continued to rise, politicians were gearing up for the presidential election, and George Floyd was murdered.
Read MoreThe biggest positive about online dating is that there is a plethora of people to choose from. The biggest negative about online dating is that there is a plethora of people to wade through. And yet, I truly believe there is more to the dating problem than simple numbers. Online or in person, there’s something more going on. Take a peek with me into more of the common issues I’ve run into with men.
Read MoreChad loved otters, which are also my dad’s favorite animal. I took that as a good sign. After I shared a baby otter picture with him one day, he described how they hold paws with each other in the water. He wrote, “What more could you want from life than someone to float along and hold hands with?”
Read MoreContinuing with the ‘men are books’ theme, here are some of the books I glanced at and quickly put back on the shelf.
Read MoreAs the world was collapsing and we were all guessing how you got COVID, how best to contain it, and whether or not you had to wash your groceries before bringing them into your house, I found myself back on online dating. Talk about a time when you have NO chance of meeting anyone “in the wild.” I tried not to despair at the prospect of how long we would be in lockdown.
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