When you’re single, everyone has a theory about how you’ll find the person you end up with. Most of them contradict each other:
You’ll find love when you stop looking, but you have to kiss a lot of frogs. You’ll find someone when you least expect it, but you have to believe you’ll find someone. You should keep trying, but when it’s right, nothing can stop it from happening.
Read MoreWhen I was a little girl, my grandmother would come to visit from California and she would tell me how pretty I was. Then she would smile and ask if I had a boyfriend yet. She would tell me I’d have a boys lining up for me when I was older. We have come a long way since her generation’s view of gender roles. But what I think many people fail to see is that the underpinnings of that life, those expectations, still permeate our world today…
Why not share some of the delightful messages I’ve gotten from the men that my grandmother assured me would line up to date me?
Read MoreAfter Chad, I jumped back on online dating sites within a month. Looking back, it was too fast, but I was lonely and missed the happy brain chemicals. I convinced myself I was ready again. It was the end of May 2020, and as much of the world stayed in some form of quarantine, America began to ease its door open and peeeeek through the crack like that one kid who can’t wait for Christmas morning. Meanwhile, COVID numbers continued to rise, politicians were gearing up for the presidential election, and George Floyd was murdered.
Read MoreChad loved otters, which are also my dad’s favorite animal. I took that as a good sign. After I shared a baby otter picture with him one day, he described how they hold paws with each other in the water. He wrote, “What more could you want from life than someone to float along and hold hands with?”
Read MoreContinuing with the ‘men are books’ theme, here are some of the books I glanced at and quickly put back on the shelf.
Read MoreAs the world was collapsing and we were all guessing how you got COVID, how best to contain it, and whether or not you had to wash your groceries before bringing them into your house, I found myself back on online dating. Talk about a time when you have NO chance of meeting anyone “in the wild.” I tried not to despair at the prospect of how long we would be in lockdown.
Read MoreThe first time I created an online dating profile, I didn’t interact with a single soul. I watched messages from men come in and everything in me shriveled away from the whole kit and kaboodle. The idea that real live people were on the other end of those pictures incited pure terror. I quickly turned off my profile and deleted the app.
Read MoreOnline dating is like picking up a book you just came across in the bookstore without ever having heard of it or its author before. You have no clue what you’ll get.
Maybe the cover (dating profile picture) catches your eye. We all know what you shouldn’t judge a book by. It might be very appealing on the outside and complete trash inside (I’m looking at you, “Fifty Shade Shades of Gray").
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