men — Only Love (and Books) Can Break Your Heart

As if She Were the Sun (You Should Leave a Comment if I Enjoy Tequila)

When Charles Dickens, an author I don’t even like, can write, “I loved her against reason, against promise, against peace, against hope, against happiness, against all discouragement that could be,” how is it that half these dudes can’t write a single thing about themselves in a dating profile?

Instead, many guys can’t even express themselves clearly when given a simple prompt. Here are some of the great* responses to prompts I’ve seen over the past half year. If men are books, these may bite.

Marisa MinerFebruary 4, 2024dating, online dating, men, women, reading Comment

Book 14: Floppy Fish Kisses (Alan the Awkward)

When you’re single, everyone has a theory about how you’ll find the person you end up with. Most of them contradict each other:

You’ll find love when you stop looking, but you have to kiss a lot of frogs. You’ll find someone when you least expect it, but you have to believe you’ll find someone. You should keep trying, but when it’s right, nothing can stop it from happening.

Marisa MinerJanuary 28, 2024divorce, dating, online dating, love?, men, consent Comment

Talk Decent To Me

When I was a little girl, my grandmother would come to visit from California and she would tell me how pretty I was. Then she would smile and ask if I had a boyfriend yet. She would tell me I’d have a boys lining up for me when I was older. We have come a long way since her generation’s view of gender roles. But what I think many people fail to see is that the underpinnings of that life, those expectations, still permeate our world today…

Why not share some of the delightful messages I’ve gotten from the men that my grandmother assured me would line up to date me?

Open Books You Might Want To Close

These are some of the many downright concerning profiles I’ve come across on dating apps. They get weirder as you go…

There’s a reason I’ve had to come up with so many rules and measures to sort through profiles online.

Guys have to worry about whether their date has put on 10 pounds since their last picture. Women have to think about whether or not they will walk away unassaulted.

Marisa MinerMarch 23, 2023dating, online dating, love?, domestic violence, men, feminism, gender norms, women, patriarchy, gender inequalityComment

Don't Touch That!

The biggest positive about online dating is that there is a plethora of people to choose from. The biggest negative about online dating is that there is a plethora of people to wade through. And yet, I truly believe there is more to the dating problem than simple numbers. Online or in person, there’s something more going on. Take a peek with me into more of the common issues I’ve run into with men.

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